Are You Better Off?

For those of us married gals – I pose a question to you today. Before I ask it, I want you to remember how you felt when you were dating your spouse. How often you would go out of your way to do nice things for each other, you dressed your best and took special care of your appearance, and you remedied any arguments or disagreements as quickly as possible. Have things changed – and if so, why?

Yes, it takes a great deal of effort to continue to always put on your best behavior. And I have to say that there is something that makes me feel secure about being able to feel comfortable and normal with my husband without having to always be at my best. But, I do try to be at my best most of the time. I do it because I continue to care about our relationship and how he feels about me. I continue to look for new ways to encourage him, listen to him, and improve who I am as his wife. I want my husband to feel like his life is better, because of me.
Most of us tend to put so much of our efforts into raising our children. I would venture to say that at some point, (hopefully) our children will feel like better people because of the time, efforts, and love we put into raising them. And I know that for me, I feel like my children have bettered me. They have already taught me so much – sometimes it hurt – sometimes it was joyful to discover new things… but they have bettered me.
Have you and your husband bettered each other? Are you better people because of one another?

I think that’s how marriage should be. And in a day and age when so many people are quick to bail out, bash their spouses, or set demands and expectations that never can be met….a marriage that showcases a couple who looks out for one another, encourages one another, is there for each other through thick and thin — that is a marriage to emulate and admire. Our children need marriages like this to look at as examples of a healthy realtionship.
We can each better each other if we only try. And it can start in our homes with our spouse. Marriages are the foundation of our families – the atmsophere and attitudes trickle down into our children’s lives which then trickle out into society.
Give your marriage all you’ve got. If you start bettering one another, you never know – you may just better the world.
~ Dionna Sanchez is the Founder of
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Boys and Grills

A friend sent me this link and I had to watch this video twice. It’s just too funny.

I’m not posting the link to slam men (I happen to have a pretty good one, myself) – but just to laugh and enjoy the life of a mom and wife a little bit.

It Makes Scents

I have a favorite old shirt of my husband’s that I just couldn’t bear to part with. So I saved it and when I wear it, I love burying my head inside of its collar and smelling my husband’s “scent” on it. It is so personal – so “him.”
It occured to me that our scent is like that to God. He knows our scent and it is personal to Him. The very knowledge and details of who we are – are not only noticed by Him, but valued and cherished. He longs to feel close to us.
I love knowing that everything about me is so special to my God. I love wrapping myself up in the knowledge that God wants to be with me and in my presence.
As this revelation came to me, I just wanted to write it down to remind me that I am very loved.
As are you.
~ Dionna Sanchez

The Sanctity of the Bedroom

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. 1Cor 7:3

I hate our bedroom looking messy and it probably stems back from when I was just 16 years old.  I’d become engaged to a boy and his mother had given me a book to read about the value of marriage and the marital home.  I know we were very young back then but there had been a good reason.  He was dying of cancer and his and my parents already had a very good idea that he wouldn’t be around long enough for us to get married but as his fiance I was allowed into the hospital to visit him at any time.

I was probably too young to realise this at the time but I did read the book and took on board much of what was said and still today apply many of those things.

I love our bedroom to look inviting and not messy.  Recently my eldest daughter helped me measure and shop for new curtains and matching bedding and I couldn’t wait for Graham to get home that night to see our new look bedroom. It looked like something from a classy hotel and I was thrilled with the result.  So was he as he had no idea of the surprise I’d planned for him and he’d been thinking our room looked small and tired but hadn’t said anything.  The new colours and decor now make the room look fresh and larger somehow.  He certainly made sure I knew he appreciated how much I cared about the room that cemented our marriage.

I firmly believe it is the wife’s role to make the home a place the husband wants to come home to daily.  We hear so much of marital problems, husbands staying at work long hours or other things interfering with their marriage.  Whilst it is true that many women work away from home these days and the housework might be lacking, the bedroom should still be their private domain and one that is always inviting.  If the husband is one that is home more then perhaps this is something he could be looking at.  The bedroom of a married couple is one that should be sanctified, set apart, kept special and always inviting to the couple it was intended for.

Many years ago I remember seeing the bedroom of some friends of our’s and it was cluttered with mess – clothing, newspapers, books and all sorts of things everywhere, even on the bed.  I knew this wasn’t a once-only situation but something that was constant in their household.  I don’t believe for a moment that this was the only problem in their marriage and the cause for their breakdown but I do feel that perhaps their bedroom wasn’t valued by either of them and wouldn’t have helped their situation.   Somehow the care taken in a marital bedroom spills over to the care taken in that marriage and both husband and wife benefit from that effort.  What do you think?

Kathie M. Thomas is an Author, Blogger, Speaker and Virtual Assistant Coach & Trainer. Her passion is about helping women return home to work, using skills they developed in the workforce, so they can be home fulltime for their families.