GOODBYE, SUPERMOM!

God, my life is a mess. How are you ever going to use me again? I don’t understand why you’ve allowed this to happen. Lord, please help me.”

I prayed those words countless times over the past four years. In 2006, I was diagnosed with a crippling autoimmune disease called Ankylosing Spondylitis, which causes hardening of the hips, spine, and major organs. Within months of the first symptoms, my life was transformed.

I was Super Mom. Maybe you know what I’m talking about: wife, mother, Kindergarten Room Mom, entrepreneur, Registered Dietitian, Bible teacher, crafter, family gourmet cook, and last, but not least, manager for my daughter’s modeling career.

ARE YOU TRYING TO BE SUPER MOM TOO?

I certainly tried, but God showed me I couldn’t do it. The illness crippled me. I spent three years as a prisoner in my own body, unable to move without excruciating pain.

My former Super Mom Super Powers were gone. I couldn’t stand up long enough to cook dinner, fold laundry, or sit on the floor to play with my children. All of those roles were delegated to someone else, while I took up residence on the living room sofa.

Those haunting prayers returned, “God, how are you ever going to use me like this? I’m more than broken—I’m shattered. You have stripped me of myself. I don’t know who I am anymore.”

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN SO BROKEN THAT YOU THINK GOD CAN’T POSSIBLY USE YOU?

I was there right where you are. It took time—years, in fact—for the Lord to humble me and then build me back up in Himself. By pouring myself into the Bible

I DISCOVERED MY IDENTITY WASN’T SUPER MOM, IT WAS IN CHRIST.

God doesn’t love me for everything I accomplish on a daily basis. He loves me because His Son died for me and on the third day came back to life, paying for my sins.

GOD LOVES YOU TOO, BUT NOT BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU DO FOR HIM.

Can we ever DO enough? Can we ever BE perfect enough?

Super Mom isn’t the answer. Jesus Christ is.

I HAD A CHOICE TO MAKE. I could either spend the rest of my life blaming God for ruining me with this horrible disease, or I can trust that even in the midst of the gut-wrenching pain, my life counts in Christ.

YOU HAVE A CHOICE, TOO.

If God has allowed you to be broken, maybe even shattered, you have a decision to make. Will you shake your fist at Him for destroying everything? Or, will you surrender to His plan, even though it’s NOT what you desire? Will you say Yes to His call on your life?

WILL YOU SURRENDER YOUR MESS TO HIM?

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for His compassions never fail.

They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.

I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for Him.”

The Lord is good to those whose hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him;

It is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.

Lamentations 3:22-26

WILL YOU WAIT QUIETLY FOR THE LORD?

Carrie Cooper @ comfortedbyGod.blogspot.com

Getting Distracted By Life

Depression. Ambition.  Loneliness. Bitterness.  Busyness.

All of these things have something in common. And that is that the focus of each one of these is on ourselves. We are centered and thinking about our own situation, feelings, environment, and mood.  Life can do that to us.

I’ve found out a little secret.  Something that keeps me from being too prideful, helps me get over being depressed or lonely and something that keeps my priorities right. That “something” is vision.

You see, when I have a God-given vision or purpose, then it gives my life and each one of my daily moments a true purpose. It gets me excited about something, it keeps me moving, it focuses me on something greater than myself. It works – every time.

I think we let life distract us from what we are truly here for.  We let our drive for paying off those bills, or going to that next big attraction or adventure, or making sure we’re taking all the right pills and medications – keep us from giving and living within our true meaning and purpose. We let all that “stuff” be the ruling force in our lives instead of letting God be the ruling force in our lives.
When I am doing something for the Lord, whether it’s teaching Ladies Bible Study, focusing on an upcoming missions trip, working on my ministry, doing community service – whatever it is that He has laid on my heart – I get excited about living! I get motivated to eat right, exercise, my attitude is improved, my health seems to fair illnesses better, I forget about the lack of close friendships or the dreams unreached in my life – and I just LIVE for Him. All those things dissipate and it feels like I’m living out my true calling for that moment or period in time.

You see, we all need a “Holy-vison” or a “Holy-calling.” We need something higher than ourselves that God has asked us to do. For each one of us, that calling or vision may be different. But I’m betting that each one asks us to step outside of our comfort zone a little bit and reach out into some area of life that needs reaching.
Start praying today and ask God for Him to show you what God-given task you can devote yourself to. Look for those opportunities that He has placed before you to give your heart and soul to. Watch how quickly you will forget about the worries of the world and all the other things that used to crowd your heart and mind.

There is something BIGGER than ourselves and we can be apart of it.
~ Dionna Sanchez is the Founder of Emphasis On Moms at http://www.EmphasisOnMoms.com.  She also maintains her own blog to encourage women at http://beautyinthestorm.blogspot.com

Manic Mother

Since when is “busy” better? I’ve wondered that often the past few years. It seems that life seems to barrel out of control and we let it.  We let the schools tell us that we need to contribute this, volunteer here, give to this, etc. We add church functions to our schedule, sports activities to our schedule and say “yes” to way too many things. Heaven forbid we should sit at home without the telephone ringing asking for our help! Why then, we might be considered boring or unwanted! No, we feel that we need to be running here and there, and pretty much – just plain running everywhere. When we aren’t running to some activity, function, or appointment, we are running in our heads with to-do lists galore.
 
It’s good to be active and involved in life – with boundaries and limitations. My concern is when I just see mothers active and involved without boundaries and limitations. They may be the most “talked-to” women at the school or church, but where are their children? Who is taking care of them? Who is investing their hearts into them? If they are with their moms usually I see them clamoring for attention and being hushed repeatedly, or running off independently on their own without proper respect or obedience being given the parent in the least. But they are independent because in a way, they’ve had to be. Mom is always busy baking for this event, helping decorate for this function, or planning this activity.  And the family suffers for it.  All in the name of image.
 
Moms – slow down. We need to be wise in what activities and functions we allow into our lives and our homes. Society doesn’t encourage restraint and rest. But we need to recognize that so that it doesn’t have a hold over us.  Not everything is to the benefit or growth of our family. And certainly not everything creates a strong family bond. In fact, some things only tear and rip those bonds making them very fragile, indeed.
 
Our families should be our #1 ministry. Not the church bake sale, the school PTA, or Girl Scouts. As great as each one of those activities are, they are worthless and they are harmful if we can’t first take care of our families physical and emotional needs before attending to the needs of the organization or ministry calling for our attention.

A “manic mom” is never a good thing for a family. Take some time to figure out if you’ve let well-meaning friends and activities take up too much of your time and emotions. Study how much time you put into those “things” and how much time you have left to be a mom, wife, and Godly woman and example in your own home.
 
It’s never too late to make a change.

~ Dionna Sanchez

http://www.EmphasisOnMoms.com