and faithful instruction is on her tongue Prov 31:26
It’s not always easy to know what the right thing to do or say is.
I manage a forum of over 1,000 people, mainly women, in the Virtual Assistant industry. The forum is many years old but in recent years I’ve felt the need to bring on board some moderators for a number of reasons – some are on the other side of the world to me and they can moderate messages when I’m in bed asleep.
But there are times when we need to discuss a certain member for not behaving well on the forum or to another member who becomes demanding and insists we do things their way.
Over the past couple of years I’ve had a small number of newer members take exception to an older member and they feel I should be banning her from the list. I’ve struggled with this particular problem and took it to my moderators for discussion – it wasn’t a decision I wanted to wrestle with on my own.
Thankfully my team of moderators are a group of wise women of varying ages and experiences and each were able to give me their perspective and thoughts on the women involved in this latest conflict. And they were able to help me see things in perspective.
When you’re in the middle of conflict and each side hold what seem to be convincing arguments it’s often hard to see the wood for the trees. You need to be able to step back and look from both sides, and seek wise counsel. We can’t always know the answers ourselves.
In the midst of this I had prayed to God for an answer and as if to help put the final part to the answer, this evening a lady I know from another state rang me out of the blue. She manages a network about 12 times the size of mine, but like me, it’s her business, and like me, she has problems with members from time to time. As she says ‘they are human and all have different personalities. They need to learn to get over it or go without’.
I didn’t know Lyn was going to call me and I had not contacted her about my problem. I had responded to a newsletter she’d sent out several days ago and it was tonight she chose to ring me and encourage me and just have a chat. She’d been away interstate and hadn’t seen my email of encouragement to her until this evening.
Isn’t God good? He provided a woman with 12 times the ‘talent’ that I have (see Matthew 25:14-30) to call me on the very day I’d been struggling with a problem, providing just the answer by a woman who could speak wisdom and faithful instruction into my life. Thank you Father!