Sometimes I wonder how other people view me. Do you ever wonder that? People don’t always see us the way we see ourselves or even the way we think they see us! Our impressions of ourselves are not always the impressions that others have of us.
We may think we are really fun to be around – others may see us as attention-getters, or immature. We may think we are stable and reliable when others view us as strict. We may think we are passionate about our beliefs – when others see it as being opinionated. Do other people think we are sweet and cute – or merely childlike? Do people see our genuine hearts or can they only see the way we act and speak?
I think often of this. I can get insecure when I start thinking too deeply about how I come across to others or how they view me. Ultimately, I know that I need to be happy and content with myself and striving to please the Lord….but I also understand that you can’t discount your words or actions and how they might affect others in a positive or negative way – which not only reflects upon yourself, but on your reputation for the Lord.
I don’t want to work so hard to please other people that I lose the joy in being who I am. I don’t want to lose the core of my individuality and uniqueness in the desire to be liked and accepted. But I also don’t want to be ignorant of how I come across. I want to aspire to have the right balance of character and qualities so that people will feel close to me and see my genuine heart of love for them that comes from a heart that loves Jesus.
I hate that some people might think I’m full of myself or “cocky” simply because I’m laughing or having a good time when they are not. I dread someone thinking that I’m rude because I fail to smile or acknowledge them. But I can’t live my life letting someone else “own” my actions and attitudes. I know this – and I’m striving to free myself from those standards.
Despite it all – despite my new healthy self-standards —- I still wonder at times how other people see me. I can only hope that they see the good things in me and how hard I’m working to weed out the bad.
I can only hope that my heart, my motives, my soul being — shine through to overshadow any faults that might be apparent in me. And that I can get the “real me” across. If I’m successful in doing that ~ maybe they will like what they see and simply love me for who I am.
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