This husband can rest securely because at the center of his being he knows he can trust his wife. What a wonderful picture of a healthy marriage.
A marriage is the closest, most intimate relationship between two people who are not blood related. The Bible teaches us “two shall become one flesh” and when a husband loves his wife he’s actually loving himself (Matthew 19:6, Ephesians 5:28). Given the nature of marriage, think of everything that is at risk when we open our self up to this intimate relationship. Below are a few points to consider:
- Emotional connection or bond
- Friendship and companionship
- Financial security
- Confidence, self-esteem
- Being loved and loving in return
- Helping one another
- Wisdom in decision making
- Joy in parenting
For the husband portrayed in today’s verse, trusting his wife is a safe thing to do. Can your husband trust you? If not, it’s time to start building trusting. What are some ways to begin building trust? After looking at the following list, you will probably come up with several of your own ideas.
- Don’t gossip. When your husband does or says something irritating, don’t call your girlfriend and tell her everything. Try extending grace and forgiveness instead.
- Don’t validate yourself. When you are disagreeing with your husband, don’t bring in others to validate your own “rightness” in the situation. Try agreeing to disagree. The world’s not going to end if you don’t agree on everything.
- Be helpful. When you notice your husband’s work clothes need cleaning, take them to the dry cleaner before he asks.
- Watch how much money you spend. Being a good steward of money is a great way to demonstrate trustworthiness.
- If you work outside the home, use discretion and wisdom. Never go to lunch with a male co-worker alone. Give no reason for anyone to suspect there may anything sexual going on with another man. Rumors get started very easily, so don’t damage your reputation. If you have to dine with someone of the opposite sex, invite another person of the same sex to go with you.
Above all these suggestions is prayer. Ask God to show you where you need to improve. Ask for His strength and courage to do what needs to be done to build trust in your marriage.
Lord Jesus, thank you for trusting us with your message of love. Enable us to display your love in all our relationships. Where distrust exists, enable us to change in appropriate ways to rebuild trust. In your precious name we pray. Amen.
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